Are you or anyone you know good at conflict management?
We mean really good.
able to enter into difficult discussions
confront tricky situations and people
ameliorate tensions between others
mediate, arbitrate and otherwise achieve resolution
even create conflict to get stuff out on the table
Well we think those are the people who should be getting the Nobel Peace Prize for handling the every day tough stuff that other people shy away from.
Shy away from!
Actually, most people avoid conflict like the proverbial plague (we'd even venture to say that given the option of conflict or plague some might even debate with themselves for a minute!).
Ok, seriously folks, conflict management is hard.
You don't know what's going to happen.
Well, we can tell you what's going to happen.
People might: cry, get angry, stomp out, accuse you, get defensive, blame others.
Most importantly, what will happen is that you will have a whole lot of uncomfortable feelings sloshing around inside you, and most of us don't like uncomfortable feelings.
We want everything to be 'nice' and pleasant; for people to get on with us and each other; for everything to run smoothly.
So what do we do?
We don't do anything and hope it all goes away all by itself.
Does it ever!
When conflict isn't dealt with it festers, it creates bad feelings, it escalates, it gets blown out of proportion, it creates gossip and rumour, it creates pretending and making things up that you never know are real or not and finally, when conflict isn't dealt with it takes on a life of its own and soon it's controlling you instead of you controlling it.
Getting over the fear of Conflict Management
Ever hear about that book, 'Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway'?
Conflict Management is about having those uncomfortable feelings and doing it anyway.
Dealing with conflict is a bit like going to the dentist: you hate the idea of it, you wait forever to make the appointment and you are sooo relieved when it's over and most of the time, it wasn't so bad after all.
Conflict is actually good - just like getting your teeth cleaned.
We've said before and we'll say it again: the purpose of conflict is to arrive at a resolution.
The only way you can achieve resolution is if you get everything out in the open and muck about with it.
Leaving it alone will get you exactly nowhere.
If you avoid conflict management it will eventually bite you in the bum.
Conflict Management Training
Impact Factory runs
Open Conflict Management Courses
Tailored Conflict Management Training
One-to-One Conflict Management Coaching
for anyone who wants to improve the way they