Success Through Conflict Management

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Success Through Conflict Management

In times of conflict you can take one of two positions.

First the position is that of having your heels dug in and believing you are RIGHT.

The second position is where you care enough to understand what is motivating the other person’s behaviour.

My recommendation, as you might have guessed, is the second.

Just to make a point, I'd like you to think back to the last argument you had with your spouse, parent, child, a friend or in a business situation.

Do you see yourself in the argument?

Now, I ask you which position did you take? "The first," you say? I thought so.

If you had taken the position of trying to understand the others position, there most likely would not have been an argument.

We humans are not perfect.

As such, we sometimes we fall into our stuff.

At these times we are not the best people we could be.

But, it is the person who recognises that they are in their stuff and makes a new behaviour decision that makes a good partner.

You might be thinking, "Thanks for the info, Ed, but why do I have to always be the person who makes the change, the person who makes it works?

Why can’t it be the other guy once in a while?"

My answer to you is simply that you are the one who figured it out first.

Get out of your stuff and, as Nike says, JUST DO IT.

Listed below are some additional tactics to help you resolve conflict.

1. Evaluate your, and your partner's, conflict management styles. Understanding each other is a great start.

2. Identify and plan strategies to deal with non-productive behaviours before they crop up.

3. Give positive feedback as often as possible so the relationship does not take on a negative tone through only firefighting interactions.

4. Confront problem situations at once rather than waiting for the situation to escalate.

5, Invite comments from all stakeholders early in every project, especially your alliance partners.

6. Consider using humour and maybe even humility in certain situations.

7. Encourage dissent at a time and place that serves all involved.

8. Review the value of the alliance relationship. Determine how much your circles of interest overlap. Ask if winning this battle will get you closer to an OSR, or further away from it.

9. When you hear something you don't like, repeat it back in an informational way. See if the message you received was the same as it was intended. Misunderstanding is the root of much conflict.

10. Know your buttons and don't allow them to be pushed. You have control in this area.

11. Completely listen to what the other guy has to say before you open your mouth. Remember the adage, Listen twice before speaking once. That's why God gave you two ears and only one mouth.

12. Remember the principle of saving face. In some societies, it is a matter of life or death. Fortunately, or unfortunately, depending on how you look at it, this is not usually the situation in North America.

13. Keep your ego in check. Be clear on the difference between high self-esteem and high ego. One serves and one does not. Need I say more?

14. Appoint a devil's advocate and allow them to be involved in projects from the start, all the way through completion. Their job is to be a pain in the neck. It's not that they are just picking on a certain person or position. This keeps people from taking a dissenting opinion personally.

15. Keep the consequences of your decisions in mind.

16. Value the opinion of others. Focus on the clarity of the water, not the spring from which it flows.

I understand that building Outrageously Successful Relationships can be difficult at times.

My best advice for you: Know the value of your relationships.

Know where you want the relationships to go and stay on course.

Accept that quality Partnering just takes time and effort.

Accept that there isn’t any magic--just dedicated implementation.

This article was contributed by E.R. Rigsby

Adapted from, Developing Strategic Alliances, by Ed Rigsbee, CSP. Ed Rigsbee is also the author of PartnerShift-How to Profit from the Partnering Trend and The Art of Partnering. Rigsbee has over 1,000 published articles to his credit and is a regular keynote presenter at corporate and trade association conferences across North America. He can be reached at 800-839-1520.

 

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